It seems that fingering is underestimated and is considered at best an optional element of foreplay. But in fact, it is a full-fledged sexual practice, which can give a completely new idea about sex.

Fingering techniques often spread like wildfire. They are exchanged between partners, they are invented from scratch by couples, and they are taught to new partners. Fingers are an almost universal sex device. Fine motor skills allow you to get a bunch of new sensations, and the intensity, speed, and volume can be adjusted instantly. It seems that fingering is underestimated and is considered at best an optional element of foreplay. But in fact, it is a full-fledged sexual practice, which can give a completely new idea about sex.

Types Of Fingering

When you hear the word “fingering”, the first thing that comes to mind is fingers penetrating into the vagina, but in fact, this practice has many options. For example, genital fingering does not necessarily imply penetration. 

• Vulvar fingering – that is, caressing the vulva from the outside – may well be pleasant in itself. One of the types of vaginal fingering is thumbing, a.k.a. penetration with the thumb. The shortness of the thumb allows you to actively stimulate the walls of the first third of the vagina, where the largest number of nerve endings are located. At the same time, the feeling of the palm of your hand is relaxing for those who love shallow penetration.
• Anal fingering is the stimulation of a finger on the anus, with or without penetration. Anal fingering can complement any action with the vagina or vulva, and you can combine it with vaginal fingering. For the latter, you will need to use two hands at once, or one, but with flexible fingers.
• Oral fingering, as the name implies, it’s about the penetration of your fingers into your partner’s mouth. Anyone can use this practice as an additional stimulation to kiss or to sex, but for some lesbians and transgenders, it can be full-fledged sex. Some people like to take one or two fingers to a shallow depth, others like all four and deep enough to reach the throat. In the latter case, be careful not to trigger the gag reflex.

How To Start Fingering

It may turn out that a woman is more pleasured when your finger is not pressed firmly against the head of the clitoris, but slightly to the right, to the left, above, or below.

When you’re aroused enough and your partner is ready, move on to stimulate her genitals. Regardless of whether you agreed on penetrating or only on external stimulation, it still makes sense to start with touching the vulva. Apply a lubricant to your fingers and start with slow movements or “wide strokes”. For example, slowly touch the circles along the contour of the vulva, or move up and down along the labia minora with the front and back of the hand alternately. You can also gently press your fingers to different parts of the vulva or lean your palm against the vulva and begin to caress the circles. Do not switch movements too abruptly, especially at the beginning. Give your partner time to get comfortable and understand how she is feeling with each of the techniques. If in doubt, ask questions.

After some time, you can proceed with direct caresses on the clitoris. For many women, this is the most pleasant part of fingering the vulva – but not for everyone. So do not forget to work out the tastes of your partner. If you want to offer her stimulation options, try these techniques on her and consult her as you go: move your finger up and down the clitoris: finger through the center of the clitoris or on one of its sides; movements left and right; circular movements around the clitoris; and circular movements with a finger or several fingers pressed to the clitoris. It may turn out that a woman is more pleasured when your finger is not pressed firmly against the head of the clitoris, but slightly to the right, to the left, above, or below. Experiment and consult in the process. Do not forget to ask whether the current speed and pressure are pleasurable for the partner – her satisfaction depends on these factors too.

Fingering Techniques

A lot of men ask “What do I do with my fingers inside her vagina?” For starters, you can master the popular techniques of vaginal fingering, some of which will certainly suit your partner. And remember that by default, it is better to start penetration with one finger. Here are some of the most popular techniques to finger her vagina: 

1. “Come here” movements

One of the most popular fingering techniques. Place the index finger inside the vagina so that the fingertip is turned towards the front wall and the nail towards the back. Begin to bend your finger as if trying to lure someone. At the same time, the pad will fall on the front wall in the first third of the vagina. It may take a little time to discover the area that is most pleasant to touch. If the partner asks to add a finger, add the middle one and fold it so that both pads are located side by side.

2. Fixed bent fingers

This technique is similar to the previous one, but here the fingers will be static: you will move your hand from the shoulder. Attach the pads of one or two fingers to the front wall of the vagina so that they touch the area, the stimulation of which will be very pleasant for your partner. Fix the bent fingers in a static position and, without changing the position of the hand, begin to move your hand towards yourself and back – the pads will slide along the front wall. Keep a not too large amplitude.

3. Forward thrusting

Introduce straight fingers parallel to the walls of the vagina, move forward and backward. You can regulate the depth of penetration. Depending on the desire of your partner, you can enter as far as it will go. On the way back, you can pull your fingers out of the vagina completely, or you can pull with a small amplitude without exiting the vagina. You can reduce and increase the speed and, of course, change the number of fingers. If you penetrate with two fingers, try replacing the usual index and middle finger with a combination of the middle finger plus any other finger. Many people like it when the knuckles touch the vulva on both sides of the entrance.

4. Pulsating movements

This is a more delicate version of forward thrusting. Insert your fingers inside parallel to the walls of the vagina, and if the partner is comfortable, insert it to the maximum depth. Fix the base of the fingers at the entrance and begin to make pulsating movements towards the inside. If you want to vary the technique, try to press the pads closer to the front wall, keeping the fingers themselves straight.

5. Corkscrew

With one or two fingers, start making “drilling” movements, as if “screwing” into the vagina. Adjust the amplitude and angle of entry. Another version of this technique is to start depicting not a corkscrew, but a spoon, wherein you seem to be “scooping” out of the vagina.

6. Up-down, left-right movement

Simply place your fingers at a comfortable depth for your partner and lift them up and down, moving from the base, or move left or right, moving from the wrist.

7. Freeze position

In some cases, the partner may want you to simply enter a certain depth that is comfortable for her – and stay inside. However, she may want to move on the fingers herself. This gives her the opportunity to “ride” your finger. In other positions, she can make movements with her hips.

As fingering can be extremely pleasurable for the woman, the main thing that differentiates a good fingering session from a so-so one is the level of communication between partners. Always remember to ask what she loves and what she dislikes for a truly unforgettable experience.