Studies say that most women find it easier to reach orgasm if sex involves cunnilingus. Cunnilingus helps to relax, focus on yourself and your feelings – perhaps more subtle and diverse than with vaginal sex. It can last from five minutes to an hour. It may lead to orgasm it can be just a part of foreplay. The important thing is that everyone involved in the act should feel pleasured.

Every Woman Is Different

Every female genitalia looks different: the shape of the small lips differs, the distance from the clitoris to the entrance to the vagina, the size of the clitoral hood, and so on. Ideally, you should ask your partner for permission to examine her vulva, gently touch it, and ask questions before sex. To discuss before sex what the partner wants, what is unacceptable for her, and what is possible with reservations is very important. 

It is important to learn about preferences because each woman has her own erogenous zones, and everyone also likes different stimulation techniques. In addition, wishes may vary over time or from time to time. In many guides on cunnilingus, it is recommended to not follow a routine with the techniques and the sequence of actions, but rather be guided by intuition and listen to your partner. Nevertheless, the more versatile your skillset is, the easier it will be for you to find something that pleases a particular woman. Of course, the stimulation techniques are endless, and the tips below just show examples of how you can interact with your partner’s vulva in different ways. Try these options or invent your own.

Every female genitalia looks different: the shape of the small lips differs, the distance from the clitoris to the entrance to the vagina, the size of the clitoral hood, and so on.

Stereotypes About Oral Sex

In spite of the stereotype, cunnilingus is not a just tongue and clitoris action, but rather a full face and perineum experience. It is pleasurable to stimulate the vulva, perineum, and anus with the help of lips, tongue, nose, chin, and even cheeks. The more parts of the face you use for stimulation, the more diverse sensations your partner will get.

Oral Sex Techniques

Start slowly when you are aroused enough together. An unhurried pace will give a woman the opportunity to listen to their feelings, and you to follow her feedback. The important thing is, do not immediately jump at the clitoris. This is a highly sensitive zone with 8000 nerve endings and stimulating this area is best done gradually. Place the tip of the tongue between the small and large lips – left and right alternately. It is possible to bypass the external contour of the vulva in light or more intense circular movements. Try different options and ask your partner how she likes more. 

You can change the force, speed, and area of ​​impact. Use the entire surface of the tongue: upper, lower, side, and tip. The tongue can make smooth or sharp movements, it can be twisted and straightened. Before starting with more advanced techniques, let the tongue relax and firmly press it against the vulva so that it covers and “wraps” all the bends. Smoothly lick the “open” hole from the bottom up. Repeat. Get feedback from your partner and continue, or change the technique.

As a general tip, the basic movement in cunnilingus is vertical (bottom-up) and circular motion. You can also experiment with transverse, diagonal, zigzag. Try stimulating the perineum of your partner. This is the area between the anus and the vulva. For some women, this area is very sensitive. Without getting into the anus, move your tongue around the perineum, and if the partner does not mind, at the end of the session slightly penetrate the tongue into the vagina.

Give the small folds some attention. Try to suck them, clasp your facial lips on them, and draw vertical lines with your tongue. Find out if your partner likes soft nibbles. If she agrees, carefully adjust the intensity of your jaws.

When the passion gets too intense, you may want to bury your face in a partner. Cunnilingus allows you to embody these desires almost literally: your face, her crotch – you can do any movements that are comfortable and pleasurable for you both. You can also stimulate all of her pubic erogenous zones at once by using your face. In this case, the nose stimulates the clitoris, and the lips and tongue can stimulate everything else. You can fix the nose on the clitoris, providing constant stimulation, and the tongue and lips can actively reach other areas. In this position, it is possible to penetrate the vagina with the tongue. If folded anatomically, then your chin can also successfully hit into her perineum.

Direct clitoral stimulation is not to everyone’s liking. Some women like it very much and help them cum violently. Some people don’t like it at all. If direct contact with the clitoris is possible and approved by your partner, try to caress the clitoris through the hood first. Stimulation with tongue, breathtaking movements with lips, sucking and biting can be very pleasurable for some people. The important thing, again, is consent between the parties involved to test different things.

Another technique that very effective involves the clitoral hood and head. Use your lips to gently push the clitoral hood and suck the head of the clitoris. If everything goes well, you can try to increase the stimulation of the head with your tongue. The direct contact and circular movements of the tongue around the clitoris are extremely pleasurable.

Like any type of sex, cunnilingus does not necessarily lead to orgasm. Do not focus on the orgasm as the ultimate goal and discuss the issue in advance: it is difficult for someone to achieve orgasm if they do not like the technique. Also, for many women cunnilingus is really a reliable way to get relaxation, so if your partner is set up for an orgasm, give her time and help her actions.

Start slowly when you are aroused enough together. An unhurried pace will give a woman the opportunity to listen to their feelings, and you to follow her feedback.