For most individuals, they only perceive sex as an act of putting the penis inside the vagina and making babies. But of course, things are not as simple as that. It just so happens that our language cannot fully express the deep meaning of sex. “Sex” isn’t restricted to a heterosexual couple doing it in a missionary position. From ingenious finger movements to using toys, sex involves a variety of practices. People who identify themselves as LGBTQ know this firsthand – here are a few principles that make their sex life full of pleasure and joy.
Anal Sex: How Much Do People Like It?
This is not limited to the context of “pegging”; some women actually do like anal sex. In any case, individual sensitivity is very different, and often it is men who like initiate this because of the opportunity to get an orgasm due to anal stimulation. Moreover, for many it is even more pleasant than being an “active” participant in the process.
In a survey of more than 7000 gay men, it turned out that only 1 out of 6 respondents prefer being on the active side, and 2 out of 5 like being on the passive side. Another study, which involves 25,000 men practicing same-sex intercourse, showed that only one-third of them “provide” anal sex, one-third “receive”, and the rest just mostly use their hands. What does this mean? That anal sex is just a sexual practice that one may or may not like, regardless of sexual orientation. This should be kept in mind.
Penetrative Sex Is Not All There Is
The sexual life of people with a non-binary structure of the genital organs or are engaged in the occasional with same-sex intercourse, convincingly demonstrates that romance, sensuality, mutual satisfaction and the expression of love does not boil down to penetration.
Until now, the stereotype lives that sex is restricted to the act of physically joining two genitals together. Or the penetration of the penis into the vagina – otherwise “it is not considered sex”. So, many people think that heterosexual sex is the standard form of sex, male homosexual sex can only be considered anal sex, and lesbian sex, since there is no penis in it, cannot be considered real sex.
However, the sexual life of people with a non-binary structure of the genital organs or are engaged in the occasional with same-sex intercourse, convincingly demonstrates that romance, sensuality, mutual satisfaction and the expression of love does not boil down to penetration. It can also be based on different sexual positions and orientations. This means that sexual interaction can actually turn into a creative act, not the usual performance of the same movements.
Clitoral Stimulation Is The Way To Orgasm
A study of more than 50,000 US residents found that 86% of lesbians and only two-thirds of heterosexual women regularly experience orgasm during sex. At the same time, 85% of men are sure that their partners actually orgasm. It turns out that men often simply do not think about whether their sexual partners are really satisfied. Either they are wrong in their assumptions or they are simply afraid to talk about it. There is only one way out – to give feedback and express your desires directly. Unfortunately, it is impossible to swap bodies so that men can explore the features of the female body, but you can always talk. Discuss the difficulties that occurring and stop pretending that everything is okay, even if it is not.
For example, in a national poll of Cosmopolitan USA, 2 out of 5 of women said they do not experience orgasm due to insufficient clitoral stimulation. The best way to gain it is to tell your partner that it is something that you would like to achieve. In addition, the habit of keeping quiet about the essentials of obtaining has a dangerous tendency to spread to other areas of common interests. Therefore, openness in sex will definitely help strengthen relationships in general.
Unfortunately, it is impossible to swap bodies so that men can explore the features of the female body, but you can always talk.
The Right Balance Between Frequency, Length, And Quality Of Sex
In a survey of about 9000 women who have sex with other women, it turns out that on average, their sexual intercourse usually lasts about half an hour. And 1 out of 4 of them, who are in a relationship, experience multiple orgasms during each sexual act. Heterosexual couples, however, spend an average of ten minutes on sexual intercourse, and more than a 33% of respondents are dissatisfied with such a duration. This is not a healthy practice for your sexual life.
On the other hand, forced sex leaves no space either for imagination, arousal, or for satisfaction. Of course, sometimes you can’t just force yourself to have sex for half an hour an hour every day. With work and other responsibilities to keep in mind, you’ll surely have no time for sleep. So instead of continuous but unsatisfactory sexual encounters on weekdays, try organizing a sexual encounter throughout a couple of long weekends. After all, as the popular saying goes, quality is still better than quantity. At the end of the day, it all boils down to finding the right balance between frequency, length, and quality.
More Than A Thousand Ways To Engage In Sexual Activity
Because of the stereotypes mentioned above, men and women are often limited to a short list of actions. While the LGBTQ, due to the inability to strictly follow the heteronormative structure, is much more inventive. This means that the chances of then being satisfied also increases. Researchers at Indiana University and George Mason University, who surveyed gay and bisexual sexual encounters, recorded 1308 different ways of sexual interaction.
Female practitioners of same-sex intercourse also have a much wider arsenal of techniques than heterosexual couples. Another way to broaden your imagination and inventiveness is to temporarily abandon your usual sexual activities and try to look for a different kind of sexual partner. After all, everyone wants to experience the best sex they could possibly have.